Valor & Expectation
For millennia, men have been involved in the external world – hunting, defense and providing for the family. The risk may be high. Individual ambition and power are rewarded.
At the same time, women have been tied to the home world providing nurturing and care, tending the more intimate needs of the family. Women have needed to keep the family healthy and happy and that often requires putting their own ambitions aside. What is rewarded in women tends to be selfless, continuous care.
Of course the world is changing, but these expectations remain in our DNA. Women can still feel guilty for being ambitious and men can feel guilty for not being ambitious.